{52 Weeks} Week 30: It’s ALL About Me

This post might be a little on the rambly side, but bare with me and I will (hopefully) get to the point!
If you’re a regular reader, or even if you’ve only been here once or twice you will know I suffer from Post Natal Depression and, this time, I have decided to put it out there and live it in the open.

After my hospitalisation, my doctor prescribed that I take ME Time. I know, right? Crazy man. I liked the idea of it, why wouldn’t I? I resolved to try. And I continue to resolve to try.

Every time I see my doctor he asks “Have you managed some time to yourself?” I mumble, make an excuse or two, shuffle my feet and he gives me ideas to make sure I do. Unfortunately, it never really happens because it is not always just dependant on me. Well, it’s never just dependant on me. He, along with the other services I have linked in with, are making it CLEAR that this is important, that I need to do it for ME and for my family.

I’ve touched on wanting to do a new series of posts surrounding Mums, getting ME time to be the best you can be and doing my bit to speak up about PND. Also, I need to be accountable. That might sound ridiculous, but I know there are many of you out there who know how hard it is to put yourself first and take that step to doing something that’s just for you. I need to do it, for my mental health but I just never do.

Today, Ellie and I were having our usual pre-nap chat when she told me I am “always grumpy.” I sat up a bit in the bed and she looked at me, touching my face and said “That’s the end of the stowy. It’s the twuth.” I was crushed. But, it’s true. I am struggling to be anything other than grumpy at the moment. I need that time out. That break my doctor insisted I take, no matter how selfish I feel.

So, starting next Thursday I will be sharing what I have done just for ME between now and then, and I want you to join me. I have seen how so many linkies give other bloggers inspiration, ideas and the motivation to do something they might not have previously. That’s what I hope to build here. It’s not always easy to know what to do for yourself and it’s never easy to figure out how to get the time to do them, so I am hoping we will be able to inspire each other. I have approached some companies and some uber talented people asking them to sponsor giveaways for this, to encourage those of you who participate to do something for YOU, tomorrow I will be putting up this month’s sponsors in my sidebar! I am very excited and I hope you will get the vibe and play along.

Because, while what I am suggesting is basically just a blog hop, it is something we really should all do for our mental, emotional, physical and most importantly family health. I don’t ever want Ellie to look me in the eye and tell me I am always grumpy. Ever. Again.

I hope some of you will come and join in. It might be fun!

Now, just a note on the actual photo for today – I packed some of my books last weekend and it distresses me to not be able to see them. I am a little OCD about my books and until we’re in a new place and they’re all unpacked and in their place I will be a touch anxious.

P.S. Do you love our Harry Potter doll? We got him (jointly) for Christmas…

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5 Comments

  1. Becky this is a lovely idea! I totally know where you are coming from when you wonder how you will ever make time for yourself as family and many other things don't really allow you to step away and get that ME time. Hopefully this will encourage myself and others too! Well done x

  2. I have justed started having some 'me time' a couple of times a month I have a market stall (selling crayons of course) I enjoy it so much … talking to the other stall holders, showing off what I make and all with no children under foot. It is hard to do but well worth the effort 🙂

  3. This a great idea Beck, but it is hard to do it with 3 little ones to deal with.

    It WILL be easier when you live here – because I'll just throw you out of the house…

    And I'll love having time with my grandkids 🙂 You know I need to spend time with them – they're what make ME feel better !!!

  4. This is a wonderful idea! It's quite funny actually, considering the blog post I am currently drafting!

  5. Hi Becky,

    I have to agree that me-time is important. The problem is that we we feel depressed we feel we are not worth that me-time, that we have not 'earned it'. When I was depressed I finally took the step to take me-time by selling it to myself as necessary time by myself to be able to better take care of my family. I went to a course on mindfulness for 8 (!) consecutive saturday mornings, leaving my husband with the kids. And it helped! A lot! Not only am I now more mindful, but I learned that my family can manage for a few hours without me, and I found that I am still there, my 'me' didn't disolve into motherhood, I just became very good at ignoring it. Now I take family free time every now and then, before I get too tired to think straight and start feeling depressed.

    I'm glad to read you'll be moving near your family. With three children myself, I know how much you need your family to support you!

    Good luck with your me-time. I hope you feel better soon.

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