Things I Know: Me and Blogging

My recent writer’s block and semi-break from blogging has made me realise or reaffirmed some of my thoughts on blogging, life and how the two fit together for me.

So this week I know;

* I missed blogging, it is how I process things. It is how I deal with things and it is how I connect with others

* I felt like I had nothing to give, nothing to say and that my voice was getting lost amongst all the other fabulous voices out there

* I felt inferior and started noticing things like not being tagged, not being chosen, not being invited, not being this, that and the other – which just added to my lack of motivation

* I felt so many of the connections I thought I had made weren’t really there

* I felt forgotten and unimportant

* I was ready to give up; throw it all in. All the above ate at my already negative mind and that voice told me “You’re not good enough. Why bother?”

* I found amazing support from Caz, Carly and Amy. Their words of encouragement and the connection we’d made me take a moment to re-evaluate all the things I had been thinking and helped me give myself permission to just be away without the guilt and worry

* I thought I didn’t care about missing today’s Pro Blogger event, that I didn’t want to go to next year’s Digital Parents Conference or look into BlogHer ’12 one night and the next day I awoke wanting to blog and wanting to learn and be a part of these things

* I just had to wait out the mojo problem and it would have been smoother sailing if I hadn’t indulged my insecurities

* It’s easy to become preoccupied with numbers, popularity, competitions, lists you don’t make it onto and feeling like you’re not in the ‘it crowd’, even if you don’t want to be thinking about these things, and concentrating on these things can lead to becoming extremely disconcerting

* Blogging makes me happy, so long as I do it my way and don’t worry about what everyone else is or isn’t doing

* I’m glad to be back

* I have a lot of work to get this blog where I want it to be, which is a work in progress in my mind but I know the general direction I want to go

What do you know today?

13 Comments

  1. Great to read this Becky & great to see you back too 🙂

  2. I really needed to read this right now. You’ve captured exactly how I was feeling. So hard not to compare yourself against others. I love that you are focused on your own personal goals for your blog. Definitely need to follow your example.

  3. I can so relate. But often I have to stop myself from feeling pressured and just remember why I blog in the first place. To document our life and share it with family & friends abroad. The perks may come & go but ultimately my blog is but an album of memories. And I am trying to fill it up again with those amidst the bustle of life.

  4. Your 3rd last point is gold Becky 🙂 Two things I know about blogging is that you have to write your own rule book and do it your own way and secondly, as hard as it is (speaking for myself), don’t compare yourself in a competitive way to others. I could write an entire post about this myself :O) So glad your blogging mojo is back. I love your writing. I chose not to go problogger-ing either. But will be at the DP CON. That should be so much fun.

  5. Yay Becky! I like that third to last one a WHOLE lot!
    Doh… Caz just said the same thing hahaha {great minds…. }
    Glad too you haven’t chosen to throw it in, your voice is a unique one and one your children might someday like to read too. I certainly love reading, we have lots in common Becky and I’m glad we have developed an online friendship, one I hope will eventuate as one IRL too! Although I’m frequently absent trying to rummage through my own chaos, I’m always here for you! xx

  6. Hey Becky,
    Absolutely!
    I have just sat down here, determined to do a decent blog entry after having lost my motivation over the last couple of weeks.I have really been feeling that whenever I think of something to say, there is someone else saying it better. And yours is pretty much the first post I read, saying exactly what I have been thinking!
    Thanks for saying it, it is nice to know that others feel the same way 🙂

  7. Great to see you blogging again 🙂

    I’m learning to be happy with where I am and not push myself to be like others. But it is a hard lesson and one it seems I must keep relearning.

  8. Glad to have you back, Becky. I’ve just finished writing a post along these lines as a guest post. It’s so important to run your own race and not compare yourself and your stats to others.
    You are a fabulous blogger just the way you are, Becky. xx

  9. Good to see you again, Becky!

    Enjoy the connections you’ve made, keep evolving and you’ll get there.

  10. I often feel the same way – but I am learning to just do what I want to do because I can’t be anyone else. I think there’s room for all of us as long as we all support each other.

    I am never going to be a huge blogger and at the moment I am not interested in monetizing or doing PR stuff so I am not putting myself under extra pressure to hit particular numbers. But I am so enjoying the opportunity to own my own bit of cyberspace and to put my own stamp on it.

    I’m so glad you’ve come back to do the same!

  11. Beautiful! – I know exactly where your coming from! I’m glad you decided to come back! XX

  12. Hi Becky,
    I’m so glad you realized that it was a stumbling block as your mind messes with you. I agree with everyone, keep on blogging and I want to give you a hug at DPCon next year! Denyse xx

  13. I don’t blog but I read, I’m glad to see you back!

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