End of Year Fatigue. Tell Me I’m Not Alone

While I do love Christmas, I am finding the lead up to be overwhelmingly insane. I have mentioned once or twice to those around me that I knew school age children get a little… ‘crazy’ towards the end of the year, but I had no idea it also affected non-schooling children.

But, effected they are. Listening has gone out the window, which is actually a big issue with Kahlei as she will happily flitter about in her own little world and without that connection she will do things like run off to a bin and disappear in a crowd, giving me heart failure for a full 10 seconds.

Things that normally don’t bother me are getting on my nerves. The games they play where one or other of them is mum and I get in trouble ten times for responding to calls of “Mu-um” only to be told that I am not, in fact, mum. Then, five minutes later I am in trouble for ignoring my name being called.

This, as a game, has been going on for months. Normally, I just accept it and move on. It’s a daily thing. In fact, often I am the one telling James that it’s a normal part of play and learning, encouraging him not to get annoyed. Now, I’m on edge, grinding my teeth as the game unfolds. Plus, I am pretty sick of being told to “be daddy” and “say this”. My kids are so bossy.

We’re all cranky, snapping. At any moment, Ellie is practically a seconds away from a full scale meltdown. Kahlei, as I mentioned is not listening, which makes her hard to get through to. Not to mention the chatting back. Jasper’s got his whinge on. And I’ve taken all of these, multiplied them and become fed-up-mumma.

I keep thinking that it’ll all be better after Christmas and New Year but then I wonder how, given that I don’t have a break. The kids don’t get a holiday from me. We just roll right on into 2012 without so much as a sigh of relief. We don’t have a break up party and say see you next year. And so I wonder how it is that the passing of these big days will lead to a refreshed family.

I need a holiday. Santa – do you hear me?

Please tell me I am not alone.


  1. You are totally NOT ALONE. It’s the same here. Too much sugar (candy canes on Christmas cards)and too much excitement about what’s happening in 2 days time. I’m so glad school holidays started today :O) BTW my girls do the same things when they’re playing mums and dads. I too get in trouble for responding when it’s pretend mummy they’re calling for. Kids hey :O)

    • So glad, Caz. I was starting to feel like I’m going mad, even to the point of being on the verge of pulling my hair out!
      And I am glad I’m not the only one with children who play like this; some days I feel like they don’t want me to be their mum when I’ve been told for the fiftieth time “You’re not mum!”

  2. You are not alone hun, I am exhausted, and desperately trying to work out how I am going to find time to do the housework, much less create magical memories for my girls.

    • Yes, how do people hold Christmas and have a clean house? We’re hosting this year for the first time and the closer I get to being prepared the messier the house is and I am running out of time to get it back under control.

      • It really is a crazy time of year.
        My parents are Catholic, so the religious and spiritual significance of this occasion is huge to them.
        On the other hand, I don’t have any real connection to Christmas itself, except that I like that it’s a good excuse to get people together. For me, I get to prepare for the new year and reflect on the last 12 months. Energetically, I like the closure of the past year and the opening of new doors, for the next.
        As my son is 10 months old now, I’m still sorting out what this year means for me as a mum and what I would like my kids to get out of it.
        Look after yourself, Becky.
        May the next couple of weeks be filled with gratitude and love for you.

  3. Becky I keep wondering the same about the no break situation. Is the symbolic nature of a new year ticking over enough to make me feel like it’s a fresh start.? I sometimes feel like I am holding onto Christmas as my something to look forward to, but what then? After all the presents are open and we return to the same old stuff, day-in, day out, am i going to go back to feeling lost again? I like to think not. I think 2012 has a bit of a vibe about it. A bit of an awesome vibe. At least that’s how I feel today. Best wishes to you and your fan for a wonderful Christmas Becky.

    • *I obi meant to write ‘you and your fam’ as in family. You have many fans, not just one 🙂 Damn you autocorrect!


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