Weight Loss Fears

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I am the queen ofย  irrational fears. From cows to emus and so many things in between. Mostly, I know they’re stupid and laugh them off, while taking the long way around if I might encounter anything untoward. Except with cows. They actually are evil.

Now, as I am trying to find a fitter, healthier me I have found my mind full of fears. It never occurred to me that there would be a stage of worrying about what happens once the weight comes off. Never did I think I would be questioning whether to actually go through with my fitness plan due to irrational thoughts which plague me.

It all began when I read a status (good ole FaceBook) of a wonderfully inspiring woman who has lost almost 100kgs who was lamenting the price of the surgery she needed to remove her excess skin. All of a sudden, I was confronted with the possibility of losing weight only to still have ‘extras’. What would I do then? I certainly could never afford to have the required surgery. These worries only led to more.

What if I lose all the weight only to look in the mirror and still hate what I see? What if my husband is imagining a perfect figure at the end of the process and is disappointed with the ‘after’ me. What if he doesn’t like the changes. What if he likes the changes too much and I am left feeling less loved for who I am as apposed what I am.

So many what ifs.

It’s silly, I know. But, the questions are there. I guess it’s just another stage to work through. I have to admit that not having heard about others experiencing this kind of doubt makes me nervous; we hear so much about the weight loss journey – online, blogs, magazines, TV – it’s everywhere and yet I don’t feel like I’ve ever seen this addressed. Which makes me wonder if it’s just me.

Have you experienced anything like this?


  1. No, it is not just you!

    I felt this way after both my children and when I finally talked to my doctor one day, he said that these people with radical weight loss that we read about, how many of them did it nice and slowly. How many consulted doctors and worked on healthy eating and then adding excercise in increments?

    It takes time to put on, and longer to take off safely.

    Many, many of them end up with the excess simply because they lost it fast and hard. The body needs time to adjust to the loss, too!

    There are lots of fantastic tightening excercises out there to do while losing weight to stop it as well.

    Just be positive and work out your reasons for losing weight. What would you gain in health? fitness? spirit?

    I totally understand where you are coming from ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. Thank you, Lauren, your words are exactly what I needed to read. I am glad you’ve mentioned the accelerated weight loss we see in these shows, as I probably would have also been disappointed when I didn’t lose BIG numbers like I see contestants do. Even though I know they’re on an extreme program. It’s funny how weight loss is so easily swayed by our perceptions. Much like the whole body image issue.

    So, thank you again for this positive, helpful comment. And I am so glad I’m not alone.

  3. Hi Becky!

    What great advice Lauren gave, I conpletely agree. Slow and steady is definitely the way.

    Mostly though, I wanted to let you know you are not alone. In fact, I saw this on my phone, and got up to my computer specifically to tell you that you are not alone! I went through the same fears of losing weight, changing weight etc, and it is definitely something worth dealing with, because for me at least, i could only beat the weight after dealing with the emotions affecting my wieght. Here is just one post back in my weight loss journey: http://alittleraeofsunshine.blogspot.com.au/2006/06/ww-in-review.html

    If you ever need to talk, feel free to drop me a line! I’ve been there, done that, with practically everything to do with weight loss. And it was a long journey for me, but has been worth it. So worth it.

    Lots of love
    Rae xx

  4. I am here through a blog hop, via twitter, small world ๐Ÿ™‚

    The media bombard us with some many questions and images when it comes to weight loss

    Personally, I feel better just knowing I am doing something, however small to improve my health. 10 pounds lost, with many still to go, I would rather have the problem of what to do when I am lighter than if I continue to be this heavy

    Good luck to you on your journey ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. Definitely just you!! Any weightloss is fabulous.. and ur hubby will love you just as much if you lose 1 kilo or 20!

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