Planning a Plan

There are a few things on my 30 Before 30 list which I have started wondering if they will (or should) happen at all. Mostly, I’ve been questioning #26 Have a night away alone. Having never done anything like that, the idea terrifies me just a little and I was wondering what I would do. All alone. Wouldn’t I be bored and lonely? Or waste the precious time sleeping? Or not sleep enough because I was trying to ‘fill’ said precious time with things I don’t normally get to do?

It got to the point where I decided it was not really worth it.

Then recently, I found a post over at Melissa Writes where Melissa tells of her brilliant idea to plan her own writing retreat.

Her words hit me and I knew. This is how I want to spend my time away. This is how I should spend my time away. And suddenly, a fire was lit within me, a fire that I’ve been trying to get going for some time.

I have a story idea, it’s loose, but it’s exciting.

And now, I have a plan to go to a quiet place and write away. Or, I am in the planning stage of having a plan. My story idea makes it easy to decide what part of the state I will want to stay, as I need to investigate a certain place where certain things may or may not have happened. Which simply makes this whole thing perfect, really.

I have yet to mention this brilliance to James, but I imagine he is currently nodding and thinking this is the best idea I’ve ever had (right, my love?).

What I am currently thinking is that, while I find a place to stay and smooth out the finer details, I will focus on securing advertising for all the available spots here on the blog and that money will go towards my retreat. As well as any other paid gigs I can pick up and any loose coinage I find.

So long as I have saved enough and have it all planned and done before my birthday, there’s no hurry (I reserve the right to retract this statement in October, because I will probably need and deserve a weekend alone, but I can’t tell you about that just yet).

I’m excited. I imagine writing. A little arting. A bath or two. No internet or noise or interruptions. Bliss.

Have you ever taken yourself on a retreat?
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  1. So glad you like my idea. All the best with planning your retreat, I look forward to hearing how it goes, and how your story progresses.

    • Thank Melissa!

  2. Oh I would love a night alone – yup I would definitely write… and social media.. and then sleep.. πŸ™‚ lots of sleep πŸ™‚ Hope you get ur day!

    visiting from #teamIBOT πŸ™‚

    • How amazing would a night alone be? It’s the most exciting thing I’ve thought about in, like, ever!

  3. Sounds like the perfect weekend away for you! great plan

    • Thanks Deb!

  4. what a perfect plan πŸ™‚

  5. This sounds very interesting.

    I can recommend a very cheap and relaxing retreat on the central coast if your interested! πŸ˜‰

    Good luck with your plan.

    • Hey Jane, is that the place you guys went to recently? I might contact you for some details!

  6. A writing retreat sounds absolutely divine, and like a great way to recharge your batteries.
    Hope it can happen easily for you. Xx

    • Thanks Jess. I think it has to happen, before my batteries run out!

  7. Sounds like heaven to me!

    • It does, doesn’t it. The more I think about it, the more I KNOW it’s just what I need.

  8. You should definitely do a retreat. I remember studying for my final exams at uni one year I took 4 nights in an amazing apartment in the Hunter to study!! It was so nice to be out of my normal environment and be inspired!

    • That sounds like bliss! While I’ve never done it, I can feel it’s ‘right’ for me!

  9. Sounds like a fantastic plan Becky! I often travel away for work, and I love the time by myself, holed up in a hotel room, doing whatever I want. It is bliss. Room service, pj’s, tv, and a good book. Enjoy it! You deserve it.

    • I read that and have a moment where I wish I worked and traveled, too. It sounds completely amazing.


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