A Sheltered Life

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Every so often I realise just how fast my Munchkins are growing up.

It’s not hard to be reminded, as they come and measure themselves against my body or as they show their new skills learnt at school, day care or purely through practice at home. Barely a day goes by when I’m not in awe of, and shocked by, them. The things they know and understand and by the ways they have changed.

I lament the passing of time while relishing these amazing new abilities and the development of their beautiful, very unique personalities.

Last week, though, I got a real glimpse of just how fast our kids are growing up these days.

I was helping in Ellie’s class and, as I helped with paint, tape and paddle pop sticks I listened to four children talk about TV shows, movies and concepts that I would consider much too old for them. I was shocked at the frank discussion and language as they tried to out do each other with just how ‘grown up’ they were.

Not that long ago

It was confronting for me. It made me realise that, while my kids are growing up fast, they’re not quite growing up that fast. I don’t want them to be watching horror and discussing members of the opposite sex  in ways other than mere friends. Not yet.

At the same time, I worry about just how sheltered my children are compared to so many others. I didn’t really think they were until recently. Not really, I mean, we are careful but compared to when I was a growing up it’s nothing.

There are lots of things I am noticing about other children now that my guys are at school. Things like, other kids thinking that my kids will have watched superhero movies because they love to dress up as Iron Man, Batman, Superman and Wonder Woman. Honestly, as far as Jasper is concerned, superheroes are there to help people – not hurt, even ‘baddies’ – and I don’t see any reason for any of them to see those movies or even the cartoons yet.

They have never asked to, either. They are blissfully unaware.

But, for how long? How long can Ellie sit with a group of children and not want to seem grown up too? Am I holding them back and leading them to a place of teasing and bullying by wanting them to remain children for as long as they can?

Ellie-balloon

I have to admit to feeling relieved since that morning when I’ve seen Ellie running around playing while these other children sit in the yard and chat like they’re already bored teens. With attitude (don’t worry, Ellie has plenty of THAT, too).

I figure I have plenty of that ahead of me. Now is for running and playing and laughing. Being silly and trying cart wheels. At least that’s what I think.

But, honestly, where’s the line? How grown up is too grown up at 6, 7 and 8? And how sheltered is too sheltered at the same age?

This parenting gig is hard and they grow up too fast. I don’t like the idea of it going faster.

Linking up with Jess for #ibot

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11 Comments

  1. My 4.5 year old asked me the other day ‘Mum, is Santa real? Like really real?’ I can’t believe it! He hasn’t even turned 5!!!! They grow up way too fast.

    • Oh no 🙁 My 7 year old is asking questions and I think she actually knows but doesn’t want to accept. I can’t believe how fast they grow up!

  2. I’m desperately trying to put the brakes on my kids growing up too fast because once they are then a bit of their innocence is gone too 🙁 Mine are a bit behind is street smartness and I’m happy about that. Plenty of time for that, bring on the silly I say! x

    • So true! I’m with you, a little bit behind in street smarts at this age is no big deal. I love the silly!

  3. I’m completely with you. I don’t want them to grow up too fast and be exposed to things they aren’t mature enough for or ready for. Hopefully we are the norm, but who knows. There are so many kids out there who see and hear too much for their age. It’s scary.

    • I hope we’re the norm, too, although I am beginning to wonder a little!

  4. I think my kids are pretty sheltered too, but I was really sheltered and it was ok. So long as you give important information when you need to, and don’t hold back on life stuff, I say keep them innocent as long as possible.

    • I was sheltered, too and I try and be more open in many ways. We talk about many things that were never talked about when I was growing up because I don’t want it to be a ‘thing’ (I was shocked when I started developing breasts and when my period started).
      My kids certainly get to do and experience more than I ever did as well. I just hope I am striking the right balance!

  5. The day my boys start to lose their innocence will be a very sad time. Love this age when they’re just so happy to discover and be blissfully unaware of all the uglies of this world.
    Enjoy these moments with your gorgeous kidlets! x

    • Yes, this is the best time when they are so open and happy to discover and explore without being confined by expectations or hurts and so on. Thanks, Grace x

  6. Mine are half sophisticated, half totally sheltered.I am slack-jawed at what some of their friends seem to get up to. No way am I not staying in the driver’s seat for as long as possible!! x

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